Some people say I should "move on" or get on with my life but, if I were to do that I would be devaluing Terri's memory. I want Terri - not just memories of her - but memories are all I have. So I am hurting: but isn't that hurt the true value of my love for her? So I don't want to deny Terri by moving on: I need to grieve, have my memories and look at her photographs, not move on.